With a week remaining before Election Day the political tension is so tight that many families are having a difficult time maintaining the household peace.
For many couples and extended families talking politics can be particularly explosive, especially since the partisan divide this election is frequently slicing along the gender gap.
Democratic nominee, Vice President Kamala Harris, is particularly popular with women voters and Republican nominee Donald Trump is strongest with the male demographic.
The stakes feel particularly high in this election, as many view it as a pivotal moment for the future of the nation and women’s rights. This urgency can heighten tensions. Couples may find it increasingly impossible to communicate openly and constructively when their values appear fundamentally in conflict. In some cases, discussions about politics have even led to the reconsideration of relationships, with individuals questioning whether they can remain committed to a partner whose beliefs they find reprehensible.
So, how can you keep the peace in your relationship when you and your partner don’t see eye to eye politically? How do you keep such differences from turning casual conversations about the news into contentious arguments, fostering resentment and frustration that can ruin relationships?
Couples should prioritize empathy and understanding, recognizing that political opinions often stem from deeply held values and experiences. Creating a safe space for open dialogue can help bridge the gap, allowing both partners to express their views without fear of judgment. Ultimately, the key to maintaining healthy relationships during this tumultuous election season lies in focusing on common ground and mutual respect, reminding each other that love transcends political affiliations.
One of the most important things to remember is that healthy relationships are built on respect. Instead of letting political differences become a source of conflict, approach discussions with curiosity. Ask questions like, “Can you help me understand why you feel that way?” This not only shows respect but also opens up a dialogue where both partners can express themselves.
Agree on times or situations when political talk is off-limits or decide that certain subjects are better left unspoken for the sake of your relationship. For example, “Let’s not talk politics during family dinners,” can be a helpful boundary that allows for more harmonious interactions.
While political views may differ, most couples have shared values that form the core of their relationship. Whether it’s a mutual belief in kindness, family, or personal growth, focusing on these common values can help remind you why you’re together in the first place.
There’s no need to convince your partner that they’re wrong or to win every political debate. Sometimes, accepting that you see things differently—and being okay with that—can help prevent unnecessary tension. After all, no relationship is based on total agreement on every issue. It’s about compromise, understanding, and prioritizing the health of the relationship.
Politics, like everything else, is personal. People’s political beliefs are often shaped by their life experiences, their upbringing, and their values. When your partner expresses a view that clashes with yours, try to put yourself in their shoes. Ask yourself why they might feel the way they do. Showing empathy can go a long way in defusing potential conflicts.
It helps to keep the bigger picture in mind. At the end of the day, elections come and go. Politicians and policies change, but your relationship should be built on a foundation that transcends the political climate of the moment. Staying focused on love, support, and companionship will help weather the storm of political differences without letting them erode the connection you share.
Guest:
Colette Jane Fehr is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who has helped hundreds of couples work through their differences and fall in love again. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/
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This interview will be recorded on Tuesday, October 29, 2024.
